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My daughter isn't liking school

September 5th, 2006 at 10:33 am

My youngest daughter who is seven and in the second grade has a hard time going to school. Last week was the first week and she missed two days because she was sick. The first day that she missed she called me about 10:00 in the morning crying saying she had a stomach ache. When I went to get her she seemed fine. I asked her if she was really sick or just sick of school (on the 3rd day?) She smiled and said sick of school. So I told her that is she was going to miss school, she was going to have to go home and work. I put her to work pulling weeds.

She came in after that, layed down and fell asleep. I was beginning to think she really was sick if she was sleeping and took her temp. Sure enough, she was running a fever.

Anyway, after missing two days last week and the long weekend, it was hard for her to go back today. She cried on the way to school which just breaks my heart, but I have to make her go. I've promised her if she goes 10 days in a row, she can miss the eleventh and we'll do something fun. She already has planned on doing tie-dye t-shirts. I was hoping she'd pick something that didn't cost money.

7 Responses to “My daughter isn't liking school”

  1. tynana Says:

    When my daughter was 7 years oldl the school kept calling me to come and pick her up with a stomache, etc. This went on a few weeks and finally when a doctors visit did not show anything in the way of an illness we dug a little deeper and found that another 7 year girl was being a bully to our daughter. With the assistance of the school principle we put a stop to this and no more not wanting to go to school. Just be aware she could be getting picked on, made fun of or some other stressors that are making her not like school. Good Luck.

  2. princessperky Says:

    I wouldn't want to go to school either...I prefer to spend my day in my interests, even if my husband has to do unpleasent jobs he at least gets compensated for it! That and he can change fields if he really wants, kids on the other hand don't get to make any choices and the only 'compensation' is some far distant 'someday you will thank me' (btw, mom did NOT send me and for that I thank her) and made up unrelated rewards parents create...

    While I most certainly feel that pushing thru something hard is useful, I do not feel 6 or 7 hours a day for an 8 year old is neccessary...

    Do look into just what is bothering her about school, if you are dead set on sending her (and you are in the majority there) see if there is something in particular, bullies and what not...

    but most of all think about how few years of experience your daughter has to help her through what is really a difficult time for most kids......and think how much she learned pulling weeds, and how much more she could learn from you about what she will really need in life..balancing a checkbook, saying no, cooking/baking/price research, computer skills, finding the cheapest way to tiedie, and possibly selling the results to break even....

  3. creditcardfree Says:

    I agree with the others that 7 seems to be a mysterious age for some. My experience it has been too much worry. My DD was worried about the fire alarm going off...they only practice once a month. The worries could be numerous. Is it possible for her to see the counselor at school? Just a fun time out of the classroom to see if the counselor can't figure out what is stressful at school.

    Personally, I would look for another reward than missing another day of school. Somehow it strikes me as sending the wrong message. Just my opinion.

  4. LuckyRobin Says:

    When Rose was 7 she simply couldn't cope with school or being away from me for so long every day. So I pulled her out of 2nd grade at Christmas and homeschooled her until 4th grade. She learned how to cope with a lot of things, and did a lot of emotional maturing during her time with me. She was involved in sports, dance and martial arts during that time, all things that improved her confidence, especially the martial arts.

    She had seemed fine in the earlier grades but she had an awful lot of stomach aches, and I found out later there had been some bullying going on, so definitely check up on that, too.

    Maybe a year of homeschool would be something you might consider if she doesn't settle down into a comfortable school life. I enjoyed it a lot, so did my daughter, and it wasn't hard like I thought it would be. Some children just aren't ready to be in public school so young. Some children never are meant to be in public school at all. The media tries to tell us our kids are growing up faster, but they are still little kids. 7 is young.

  5. Kris10leigh Says:

    I think 7 is a very normal age to have worries and concerns surrounding school. It is always a good idea to dig deep and talk with her teacher. She may have some insight for you. I also wouldn't recommend pulling her out an extra day. I would look for other rewards. As adults, we can not reward ourselves for going to work for 10 days by taking a day off, though there are days I wish I could!

    Homeschooling is not for everyone. Sometimes we have to work around the situation we are in.

  6. Tammy Says:

    My daughter is seven and she has a hard time going to school. When she gets there she is ok. When she is out of school for a holiday or inservice it even gets worse. I have tried many things but works the best is giving her something to take to school to give the teacher etc. I say "you need to go to school to make sure the teacher gets this" it works most of the time. At her school when you pull up to the door there are teachers there to met them so I don't have to get out of the car and that helps too. When I got out of the car before she would just cling on to me. Good luck! I am still battling the stomachache thing.

  7. susan Says:

    i have a 6 year old little girl who started out having stomach ahces the second month of school and still has them everyday. The doctor says there is nothing physicaly wrong with her and recommended a head doctor . We have a problem with the teacher , she is strict and will not let them ask questions and rushes them ,. this i believe is the problem , we have been to see the principal and talked with the nurse and counselor but they will not move her out of the class this late in the year and the teacher will not change her ways, now what let my daughter suffer because of the teacher being rude and on tenier and cant get fired? This is breaking my heart where do we go from here?

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